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A Message from Your Estranged Child

I am every age. I am four and twelve and fourteen and twenty-nine. I am every age in between. Pray for me and for our reconnection. believe in the power of your own mind and heart. Know the power of your thoughts. Know that you can reach me and hold me in your mind’s eye. Find a way to rise above the negativity and the pain and let love sustain you. Believe that there is some purpose to this mess and that we will both be okay. I can only be alienated if you allow it to happen by giving up.

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Divorce Myths you need to know about

If you are considering getting a divorce and trying to learn about the process this article is for you.

You may be getting advice from friends, family members, your hairstylist, or someone at the gym. There’s a pretty good likelihood that some or all of what they tell you about the divorce process is incomplete.

Incorrect information causes good people to make bad decisions or take actions that may wind up hurting themselves and their children.

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Christmas cheer should include the children

Christmas isn’t a Hallmark moment for children of conflict who see the Christmas season as frightening and, when everyone around them is enjoying the holiday season , even a confusing time of year. If you or someone you know is in the parenting conflict cycle be kind, be gentle and be understanding. Most of all be aware of the situation without being judgmental. Be generous of spirit. Helpbuild new memories from now on and going forward by understanding that the children might not understand what is happening and need your help in creating a happy memories of the Christmas season.

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A simple primer in Sympathy vs. Empathy

I speak in my posts about empathy being critical to negotiation , mediation, collaborative law and even relationships in general. This is a link that has been sent to me from other collaborative lawyers that connects to a short video that made  this distinction clear...

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What Makes a Good Mediator?

It takes more than just mediation courses What makes a good mediator? And how is it that mediators—who themselves lack any power to impose a solution—nevertheless often lead bitter disputants to agreement? Of course, serious mediation training and substantive...

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Principled Negotiation

In their book Getting to Yes Roger Fisher and William Ury outline a negotiation philosophy and technique that is interest focused, rather than positional, to emphasis discussion of needs that must be satisfied if the parties are to find a long term satisfying...

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Mediation – What to Expect

In this article I will talk about mediation - what to expect and how best to use this opportunity to avoid costly litigation. Preparing for Mediation Sit own and write all the events that have led up to the dispute. Now take a new piece of paper, or create a new...

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